Comments on: Dads and Daughters – Make a Decision Already

By: the man, the dad and the husband

the man, the dad and the husband — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 14:43:21 +0000

My wife is a neonatal ICU nurse (sick newborns) so she outranks me by about 100. It just seemed very natural for her to be the authority.. After all, when our house needs a new computer, that’s my job.

What changed? I realized with fishing and science stuff that I provide a LOT to my child that my wife can’t. It was kind of empowering just like I am sure it is to my wife when she does medical teaching or baking with my kid (I am clueless on those).

I think my wife and I both decided at that point that we didn’t want our kid to be one that wouldn’t eat anything unless it was the way mommy made it for example. We wanted her to be comfortable with things being different since they will be in real life.

That being said, I remember the dread of the beat-down when my wife came home and I had decided not to give our kid a bath that night. I was so relieved when I said “we’re fishing in the morning, we’ll bathe after that” and she only replied “just don’t let me hear that she went to church with hair like that”.
.-= the man, the dad and the husband´s last blog ..Man, dad and husband – Making Ornaments =-.

By: Chris

Chris — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 00:58:11 +0000

As a Dad to be, who has a baby girl due in the next few weeks, I just wanted to thank you for the article, some of us may be a little slow in the decision making department (me included) but it is only because we don’t want to screw up!
.-= Chris´s last blog ..How to Choose a Stroller =-.

By: Paul de G

Paul de G — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 14:18:52 +0000

As a separated Dad, you learn fairly quickly that you can no longer afford to be dependent on anyone else. Our daughter certainly appreciates the effort that her Dad makes, tentative though it is at times. The nurturing side of men is more than up to the challenge in my experience. Certainly, my daughter quickly lets me know when I have done something wrong. Father’s parenting decision-making will improve if given the chance.

By: Jeremy

Jeremy — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 20:59:02 +0000

Desitin? I just use shed spread or plumber’s putty – it’s the same thing isn’t it!?!

By: Matt

Matt — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 20:20:14 +0000

I never imagined when writing this that it would turn Jeremy’s lovely, family-oriented site into a den of violence. So much smacking!

@Mr Lady – You’re right. Sometimes it comes down to something as simple as wanting Aline to just CHOOSE what food we are going to order on a particular night. I don’t even care if what she picks would have been my last choice. Its just nice to not think about it once in a while. Thanks for getting my back, too

@Pinoy Daddy & Daddy Geek – Also right, both of you. The second my wife and I moved in together, the part of my brain that locates the peanut butter just shut off. It could be sitting in my lap and I still wouldn’t see it.

@Giulia Relation – Glad to hear it works the other way too. And I never actually thought about whether or not, when my son gets a little older, if Aline will worry about making decisions based on not being able to relate to life as a male as well as I do. Interesting perspective, indeed.

@Jeremy – Great. Way to make us all look like dummies. I’m calling you out. 5 seconds to find the Desitin. GO!