Comments on: Do It Because I Said So!

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Daddy’s Toolbox Carnival #4 | Daddy`s Toolbox — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 05:07:05 +0000

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By: Tara R.

Tara R. — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 20:42:03 +0000

I have to admit that when my children were much younger I once uttered the words (in response to the umpteenth ‘why’) ‘Because in this house I am god!’ Now that they are both in their teens, I do go the way of explaining why I want them to do/don’t do something more often than not.

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By: Chuck

Chuck — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 01:17:54 +0000

This is an excellent post. We’ve managed to raise kids that question just about everything. Our three year old does more challenging than questioning but we understand she is just testing the limits.

Most days we welcome the questions for many of the reasons shared already. It is very important that kids have an opportunity to understand the WHY when a request or demand is laid down. We rarely spout out some new rule without first laying the ground work that led to it, or may result from it.

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Thu, 24 Jul 2008 21:05:12 +0000

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By: Jeremy

Jeremy — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 14:47:05 +0000

Great points Diane! One of my biggest pet peeves is when I see parents negotiating with kids on rules that are already set. I think it is confusing to the kids and sends the wrong message. Now, as you said, some of the rules may be modified or evolve over time, but not at the moment of enforcement.

I think the concept Matt is putting forward applies to both discipline and reinforcing positive behaviors. Kids need to know why the things they do right is so great. This will increase the potential of them repeating good behaviors again, and it will equip them for learning good habits in the future.

Great comments!