Comments on: First Time Dad Over 40

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 02:55:08 +0000

This whole thread has made me feel so much more relaxed. I am 22 and my partner is 36. We are hoping to marry and then start a family… I was stressing that he would be too old to become a Daddy but after reading all these posts I feel a lot more relaxed about it. Unfortunately my boyfriend smokes which is obviously not good for his fitness, but other than that he is pretty healthy. I would like to be pregnant within the next four years which will mean him becoming a Dad at 40/41 if all goes to plan… I did think this was a tad too old but after reading all your positive posts I feel much more relaxed about the situation. So thank you, and all the best to all you “mature” Dads x

By: Mark Devey

Mark Devey — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 12:57:04 +0000

Well, I posted in December and now Ethan (our first) is over 7 months old!! Yes, our life has changed and we have had to make adjustments to small and large things BUT what a fantastic experience. Everyday is a learning experience for us. My few things to add;

- sleep deprivation is bad (but you do get you used to it!!!)

- go with your instincts for most situations, your baby will let you know if you are wrong

- enjoy every day and share your feelings with your partner

- your baby defintely reacts to the environment your create.

By: Bethany

Bethany — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 22:16:29 +0000

thanks so much for posting. i realize this is a bit of an older post but i just found it and it helped me a lot! im 24, and my husband is actually just shy of 40. we are expecting out first baby in a few months and i just was really feeling bad about him having to be an “older dad” but i think your post helped to wash a lot of those bad feelings away. now its just time to wait for the arrival of the little one and make our family complete! (for now haha)

By: Dave (Recycled Dad)

Dave (Recycled Dad) — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:09:40 +0000

Sean: Great post.

I became a dad again a few years ago when my first two sons were nearly grown up. In many ways, this feels like a first-time dad experience — I can definitely relate to the focus and the emotions that you describe.

What you say in your post about staying in shape is very inspiring. I like towing my preschooler around in a bike trailer and have just started kayaking with him as well, but I need to do some serious *consistent* exercise so I can keep up with him (and his older brothers) through the years.

By: Chris

Chris — Sun, 17 May 2009 04:59:16 +0000

Thanks for posting this article. I am about to have my first child (Due Jan 2010) I will be nearly 42. I was touched and heartened by your article and experience. There seems to be some benefits to being somewhat more experienced in life and more settled and focused. It is good to see that I am not alone but among a distinguished bunch (judging by your articulate article)

Thanks For Posting