How Text Messaging Has Helped My Marriage
This article written by Contributing Writer Daniel De Guia.
I have friends with strict “Do not EVER text message me” policies and would sooner sucker punch you than to engage in a conversation via text. On the flip side of the coin, I have other friends that only prefer to get text messages over phone calls.
A couple of years ago, I became so fed up with people text messaging me and paying for the extra fees that I added a text messaging bundle to my cellphone service. Once I had this service, I returned the favor by text messaging all my friends whenever I felt the need to go grab a beer. Instead of spending 45 minutes making calls, it was much easier to send a single text to several people.
The same concept applied when my wife signed-up for a text plan. It became a preferred method for us to communicate short bits of information to each other throughout the day. In fact, I can honestly say that I communicate more with her now than I ever did before texting.
Here’s a couple of thoughts about how text messaging helped my wife and I maintain a strong, healthy relationship:
- Continual communicationMy wife and I have conflicting work schedules. She has a few cleaning jobs during the day, while I’m at work and the kids are in school. When I get home from work at the end of the day, my wife races off to her evening job. On an average day, we’re lucky to see each other for an hour during the day, until she gets off of her night job at 11pm or midnight. Because of this flip-flopped schedule, most of our conversations take place through text messages.
- Keeping the flame aliveNow that our daughter can read quite well, it’s no longer safe to leave spicy little notes to my wife scattered around the house. To avoid prematurely having to answer some awkward questions, we’ll send these little notes to each other’s cell phones.
- A simple ‘I love you’My wife means the world to me and if I can’t remember the last time I told her that I loved her, that means it’s been too long. Usually, at least once a day, I’ll send her a text message just to tell her that I love her.
Do you use text messaging to communicate with your husband or wife? How has it affected your marriage?
Daniel De Guia is a Contributing Writer for Discovering Dad. His personal site is deguia.net. You can also connect with Daniel via Twitter @deguia.
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Comment by Scott @ The Passive Dad on 3 October 2008:
Glad to see the text messages work for you and your wife. It’s a fun idea, but it wouldn’t work with my wife. We email, but it’s never spicy or interesting. Just the facts in our communications
I do have a buddy that has some code words he uses and they can be funny. He has to be creative because the kids might have access to the phone.
Comment by orlund on 3 October 2008:
We don’t have a cell (we live in tiny little valley that blocks the cell towers) but if I did I would text. I think my wife would like little notes once in a while. Something I don’t think of doing much.
Comment by UrbanVox on 3 October 2008:
SMS, MMS, E-mail… aaaallll day long!

We SMS since we’d just met and Text messaging is a huge part of our relationship… and it helps a lot when u r in a place u can;t just talk on the phone.
sneaky sneaky! hehehe
UrbanVoxs latest discovery was..Follow the Rat Pack!!
Comment by PooMaster on 21 October 2008:
It never helped me she just would leave the phone somewhere or ignore the text when she was busy cheating on me. Oh well
Comment by VegasDad on 10 November 2008:
We use our text messaging every day. It’s a great invention.