Comments on: Parenting Beyond the Boiling Point

By: dobeman

dobeman — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 18:40:07 +0000

Disclaimer: Though I’m a “believer,” I’m also terribly cynical.

I’ve always found this notion of “God’s way of teaching us XY, is to give us more of something to cause us to to learn how to be more XY” a bit silly.

I’m in the same boat as you. I yell. I don’t hit, I don’t smash things (though I’d like to); I just yell. And I’ve prayed for help with that.

But here’s the thing, if God puts more crap in front of me to piss me off, how’s that helping? Frankly, it’s just pissing me off even more. Sure, I’m aware that I’m reacting incorrectly, but I’ve always been aware of it. Making me MORE aware isn’t helping. You don’t teach a fat person restraint by putting more Ho-Ho’s on the table, so why should patience be any different?

You can tell I’ve thought about this a lot…

Luckily, CareerMom is understanding of my need to get away when things get overwhelming; and I do.

Good luck to you man! And know that you’re no alone.

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By: Dad of Divas

Dad of Divas — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 20:06:08 +0000

I agree, this is tough, and I too get frustrated and a bit stressed out at the anctics of a toddler. I have to at times walk away to get my mind back in order so that I don’t say what I don’t want to say. When I do come back I at times will have a conversation with my 4 year old about why I was upset so that she understands… whether this helps I am still not sure.

By: Matt

Matt — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 18:57:50 +0000

I’m not going to lie. The technique that works for me is admitting defeat, so to speak. Sometimes I find myself fighting against what the very nature of fathering is: acceptance, tolerance, guidance, patience etc. Most of the time my anger is usually rooted in selfishness. It stems from a deep seeded “what did I do to deserve this abuse” mentality. Once I realize that I know EXACTLY what I did to deserve it, it helps me accept the responsibility I placed on myself when making the decision to become a father and calms me down….helps me deal more rationally with the situation. Great and honest post, man.

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By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 17:09:25 +0000

I find laughter is the best medicine. Try to find the humor in every situation, especially puking on a placemat. You have to admit, the image evoked is kinda funny.

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By: CK Lunchbox

CK Lunchbox — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 00:57:46 +0000

That’s a tough one Tom and something that takes a lot of guts to admit. My hats off to you. I understand exactly what you’re saying given the anger issues I had to deal with in my first marriage. Of course this spilled over with my boys and they started to show signs of it too. Long story short, the lack of control I felt in every aspect of my life was causing me to blow almost in an instant.

Regretably and at the same time, thankfully, my marriage ended and with it went that short fuse. I’m sorry I can’t offer anything other than showing my support for you.

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